Deborah Gray

Deborah Gray

Nurturing Attachments
9757 NE Juanita Drive
Suite 129
Kirkland, WA 98034


Deborah Gray is a children’s therapist who counsels children who were adopted later in childhood and/or who have been in the foster care system or orphanages. She works closely with children and their families, promoting secure attachments and working through grief and trauma. Because of her practical approaches, Deborah is a popular trainer for parent and professional audiences. She is on faculty for 2 post-graduate programs in foster care and adoption therapy. Her practice and approach are known as Nurturing Attachments.

Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents, 2002, her first book, continues to be a best-selling adoption book. It gives parents a detailed guide when forming attachments with children who have endured rough beginnings. It helps parents get on and keep on a healthy track.

Its companion is now out! Nurturing Adoptions: Creating Resilience after Neglect and Trauma, July, 2007, is written for professionals and parents. It helps readers understand the brain-based impacts of neglect/trauma in children’s development, and then spends time detailing healing techniques, effective discipline, and daily and positive routines for children.

Both books support the dramatic change in today’s adoptions as families adopt toddlers and older children with backgrounds of neglect, trauma, and loss. The books reflect Deborah Gray’s faith background and guidance from Scripture, although the books are written to a general audience.

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